The Fourth "F" (Part 2)

By: Erin Clarelli, MS, OTR/L & Jessica Jordan, MS, OTR/L

How We Can Help When our Child’s Nervous System causes the “Fib” Response

Metacognitive/Socratic Questioning Techniques

Encourage awareness of their fibs by teaching them to be more aware of themselves and their thoughts or by asking them inquiry type of questions.

Implement Curosity

Rather than using judgement, appear curious by asking questions such as, “Is there something you are worried about?” in order to uncover why they are feeling fear in the situation.

Create Accountability Opportunities

Give them extra opportunities to self-monitor and evaluate their process by keeping them accountable.

Encourage Assistance Seeking

Let them know there is nothing wrong with asking for help or advice from others, even just to help with keeping them accountable.

Create a Space for Time

Remind them that they can take time away from a stressful situation to clarify think it over, rather than feeling overwhelmed and resorting to lying.

Resources

Monica Hassall, R.N., and M.Ed. Barbara Hunter. “Fight, Flight, Freeze... or Fib?” ADDitude, 25 Apr. 2023, www.additudemag.com/why-lie-adhd-fight-flight-freeze/.